[Marriage by WJ Lee] What hinders singles from getting married? – Couple.net

 

The most recent count of average age to get married for men was 33.35 years and 31.08 years for women in 2021(South Korea). More people are getting married in their mid to late 30s nowadays. Also, there are more singles in their 50s and 60s who have never been married before reaching out for help with matchmaking companies.

 

Although some people decide to get married later than others, there are also quite a lot of them who give up on marriage. Why do people give up on getting married?

 

Couple.net asked our 1,000 male and female members about their reasons they would give up on marriage.

 

The most common response from women was ‘Because I’m used to living alone.’ followed by ‘because there is no one I like’, ‘the burden of childbirth and raising children’, ‘because I am old’, and ‘because I lack confidence’.

The answers from men were pretty much the same as women’s. Of course, the most common reason was ‘I’m used to living alone.’ followed by ‘Because there is no one I like,’ ‘The burden of childbirth and raising children,’ ‘Gave up naturally as I got older,’ and ‘Because of financial problems.’

 

The answer that stood out the most is, ‘Because I’m used to living alone.’

The modern society trend has a big impact on singles giving up on marriage, but getting too comfortable with living alone also makes it more difficult and awkward for singles to think of living with someone else. That is the disadvantage of being alone comfortably for so long.

 

 

A single woman in her 50s started dating a man. As the relationship became more intimate, she started spending more time at his place or he would come to her place. When she sleeps over at his place, she often had a hard to falling asleep. It felt awkward and uncomfortable for her sharing a bed with someone.  

This shows that being alone became her lifestyle and habit. On the other hand, breaking away from the lifestyle and habits you have accustomed to while living alone is another way to get married.

 

Another reason for giving up on marriage was ‘because they couldn’t find anyone they liked.’ It gets harder to find someone you like as you get older since you tend to judge others with your own experience. You need to admit that you are a beginner in marriage even if you are older with more experience in life. You can’t be picky with what you have seen or heard from others. 

 

Most answers for both men and women were the same except one, for women, it was ‘lack of confidence’ and for men, it was ‘financial problems.’

 

It is natural that your confidence decreases as you get older. It is common to think that no one will like me since I am old however, you can continue to look younger by taking a good care of yourself. It is important to take good skin care and keep a bright facial expression. 

 

Some men worry about financial burden of marriage but actually, you save more money as a couple than being alone since the responsibility you have for your family prevents you from unnecessary spending and makes you do more rational spending. You double your happiness and money, this is the miracle of marriage. 

 

 

WoongJin Lee | Couple.net CEO

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