The catch of the first impressions – Couple.net, Marriage is Sunoo.

 

We hope to meet love at first sight at least once.

Even though we all know that it's hard to meet someone like that yet we still hope that to happen to us then get disappointed again and again endlessly.

 

However, first impression can get in the way of meeting a good person. This is the catch of first impressions.

Some people have good first impressions, but their good impression fades as you get to know them. On the other hand, there are some people with mediocre first impressions, but you like them better as you get to know them more.

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One of our male members complained about his recent meeting with a lady. With high expectations, he showed up to the meeting dressed up, however, the lady showed up in T-shirts and jeans. In his view, her outfit suggested that she didn’t care enough about their meeting and that made him feel uncomfortable.

I was puzzled when I heard this. I know this lady and she is kind, sincere and hardworking. She worked hard to save up a lot to prepare for her future as well. She may have not dressed up for the meeting since she is a very humble person however I am certain that she would have not behaved in a way to upset the guy. So, I explained this to the guy and encouraged him to meet her once more and he agreed.  

 

Their second meeting was a complete contrast to their first one. The lady showed up wearing a pretty dress like she was someone else. They were attracted to each other, started dating, and got married.

Later we found out that she was quite tired of having too many arranged meetings, so she showed up to the meeting dressed casually with very little expectations. She didn’t want to dress up for a meeting that she thought she was going to get disappointed with anyways.

 

The man said, “What would have happened if I hadn’t listened to the manager and stopped seeing her?”

 

Like this case, some people show their real quality as you get to know each other more so if you don't meet someone because of their first impressions, you may lose the opportunity to meet a good person.  

 

That's why I suggest meeting someone at least 3 times before deciding whether you like that person or not.

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Let me tell you about some misleading first impression cases. This guy was born in 1974, had a youthful appearance, came from a good family, and was talented. He was very confident as well, so we introduced him to many ladies who mostly were much younger than him. The ladies who were introduced to him liked him for his first impression, however, none of the ladies continued seeing him and he was also frustrated about this as well.   

 

​After reading the reviews of the ladies who met with the guy, I realized what the issue was. Apparently, he likes to unilaterally notify ladies when scheduling their dates or in doing anything. The common feedback from those ladies was that he is attractive at first because of his leadership and masculinity, but as they met more, they felt that he was assertive and lacked consideration.

I delivered this message to him indirectly and told him that It's good to know yourself better and it is totally up to him to improve on what he lacks. 

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Often, people’s minds get blinded when they have a crush on someone from their first impression however, often, first impressions can’t tell everything about a person.

 

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